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EFT and the Body
In EFT we are accessing the energy of the body in order to bring about physical and emotional changes.
Energy medicine – of any kind – has a physical effect.
Think about it: What is the “big bang” that physicists tell us created the universe, other than an explosion of energy, resulting finally in space and matter. The connection between energy and matter is all around us. In the turning of the seasons, the natural world reacts to the change of energy by growing, maturing, bearing fruit, withdrawing and dying, only to begin again in Spring the following year; the life of a human being reflects this change in energy – the process of growing, maturing, creating relationships, working, retiring and old age follows the energy of the cycle of life reflected in the natural world; astrophysicists tell us that even such a powerful statement of energy in the universe as a star has a cycle of life in which it is formed, grows, matures and dies.
The Eastern traditions demonstrate to us that we are more than just matter – we are a bundle of energy streams, whether these be meridians, chakras, doshas or some other model of the flow of energy within the human body. These energy streams affect every aspect of our lives: the physical, mental/emotional and spiritual aspects of our own bodies and the way we experience the world. These energy streams are accessed through acupuncture, yoga, diet, meditation and spiritual practices and they have a physical effect. Even the UK National Health Service recognises that acupuncture is effective for pain relief.
In his book “Love, Medicine and Miracles” Dr Bernie Segal mentions a person with Multiple Personality Disorder. When the personalities changed, so did physical aspects of the body: one personality had blue eyes, while another had brown eyes; one personality was diabetic, while the others were not. Whichever energy was emphasised in the manifestation of the different personalities, the results were measurable physical differences in the body.
If we were to have a heart attack, the doctors in the hospital would give us an electric shock to get our heart beating again. Electricity is a form of energy. Passing electrical energy through the heart when it has stopped has a physical effect: the heart starts beating again.
The discovery statement in EFT is “the cause of all negative emotion is a disruption in the energy system”. With EFT we are accessing the cause of the problem – a disruption in the energy field – by addressing the emotional energy charge associated with specific events in our lives.
When we are afraid, our hearts pound and our hands sweat, we might shake and suddenly, because of all the adrenalin rushing around our bodies, we feel full of physical power to run or fight, or our energy might drain away in a “play dead” response. Just like a lightning strike leaves a measurable change on the landscape – a burnt and deadened tree, for example – fear leaves a measurable change on the landscape of our lives. So, for example, if your brother chased you around the garden with a plastic spider when you were 6 years old and, in trying to escape him, you ran into a real spider’s web with a big spider at the centre of it, it may be that you have a physical and emotional response –terror - every time you see or even think of a spider: a spider phobia that affects the rest of your life. Although the original trauma with the spider happened when you were 6 years old, the rest of your life is affected by the phobia with its roots in that one incident.
Equally, pain, for example, can be a response to a difficult time in our lives. Something as simple as picking up an item dropped on the floor, which most times would be nothing, may, because of tension in our body, result in a pulled muscle, a slipped disk or any one of a myriad of related back issues, which may or may not be curable by mainstream medicine.
As an EFT practitioner, my first question is always: What was happening in your life when this problem first started?
It is the tension created in the body by what is going on in the energy system that results in so many physical challenges. So, for example, someone with back pain might come to me for an EFT session for pain management – generally having tried everything else! – and be disconcerted by questions about when the pain started and what was happening in their lives at that time.
The connection between the physical, emotional and the energetic is often a total surprise to clients. They are feeling depressed now because of the pain, frustrated now because the pain prevents them doing what they want, angry now because they feel their body has betrayed them. However, in examining what was happening when the problem first started, we might find that a relationship broke down; they had to “shoulder” extra responsibilities; they were forced to retire; or the children left home and they suddenly had no focus to their life. The emotional “charge” created by those situations – or other changes in life - is the disruption in the energy field that manifests in pain.
When I support a client through the specific events leading up to the manifestation of the pain, tapping out the emotional charges as we go, there is often a profound and rapid change in the level of experienced pain – in fact, I will use the level of pain as a measure of how the session is going. If there is no change, then I will interpret that as an indication that some further digging needs to be done: “What did that situation remind you of?”, for example. Any increase in the pain level might indicate a different aspect rising to the surface: “It’s not so much the spider itself, but the way the web felt on my face”. A decrease in the level of pain is an indicator that we are on the right track and the energetic charge is being released.
As the session progresses, the client will often express amazement at how much better they feel on every level: “It’s like a weight has been lifted”
At the end of the session, I note a distinct change in the colour and tone of the client’s face, a spring in their step as freed energy moves into harmony and coherence and/or a difference in the client’s posture reflecting the release of long held tension.
To find out more or talk about how an EFT session with me can help you, you can find my phone number here, together with email contact details – or you can book a session with me here.
Energy medicine – of any kind – has a physical effect.
Think about it: What is the “big bang” that physicists tell us created the universe, other than an explosion of energy, resulting finally in space and matter. The connection between energy and matter is all around us. In the turning of the seasons, the natural world reacts to the change of energy by growing, maturing, bearing fruit, withdrawing and dying, only to begin again in Spring the following year; the life of a human being reflects this change in energy – the process of growing, maturing, creating relationships, working, retiring and old age follows the energy of the cycle of life reflected in the natural world; astrophysicists tell us that even such a powerful statement of energy in the universe as a star has a cycle of life in which it is formed, grows, matures and dies.
The Eastern traditions demonstrate to us that we are more than just matter – we are a bundle of energy streams, whether these be meridians, chakras, doshas or some other model of the flow of energy within the human body. These energy streams affect every aspect of our lives: the physical, mental/emotional and spiritual aspects of our own bodies and the way we experience the world. These energy streams are accessed through acupuncture, yoga, diet, meditation and spiritual practices and they have a physical effect. Even the UK National Health Service recognises that acupuncture is effective for pain relief.
In his book “Love, Medicine and Miracles” Dr Bernie Segal mentions a person with Multiple Personality Disorder. When the personalities changed, so did physical aspects of the body: one personality had blue eyes, while another had brown eyes; one personality was diabetic, while the others were not. Whichever energy was emphasised in the manifestation of the different personalities, the results were measurable physical differences in the body.
If we were to have a heart attack, the doctors in the hospital would give us an electric shock to get our heart beating again. Electricity is a form of energy. Passing electrical energy through the heart when it has stopped has a physical effect: the heart starts beating again.
The discovery statement in EFT is “the cause of all negative emotion is a disruption in the energy system”. With EFT we are accessing the cause of the problem – a disruption in the energy field – by addressing the emotional energy charge associated with specific events in our lives.
When we are afraid, our hearts pound and our hands sweat, we might shake and suddenly, because of all the adrenalin rushing around our bodies, we feel full of physical power to run or fight, or our energy might drain away in a “play dead” response. Just like a lightning strike leaves a measurable change on the landscape – a burnt and deadened tree, for example – fear leaves a measurable change on the landscape of our lives. So, for example, if your brother chased you around the garden with a plastic spider when you were 6 years old and, in trying to escape him, you ran into a real spider’s web with a big spider at the centre of it, it may be that you have a physical and emotional response –terror - every time you see or even think of a spider: a spider phobia that affects the rest of your life. Although the original trauma with the spider happened when you were 6 years old, the rest of your life is affected by the phobia with its roots in that one incident.
Equally, pain, for example, can be a response to a difficult time in our lives. Something as simple as picking up an item dropped on the floor, which most times would be nothing, may, because of tension in our body, result in a pulled muscle, a slipped disk or any one of a myriad of related back issues, which may or may not be curable by mainstream medicine.
As an EFT practitioner, my first question is always: What was happening in your life when this problem first started?
It is the tension created in the body by what is going on in the energy system that results in so many physical challenges. So, for example, someone with back pain might come to me for an EFT session for pain management – generally having tried everything else! – and be disconcerted by questions about when the pain started and what was happening in their lives at that time.
The connection between the physical, emotional and the energetic is often a total surprise to clients. They are feeling depressed now because of the pain, frustrated now because the pain prevents them doing what they want, angry now because they feel their body has betrayed them. However, in examining what was happening when the problem first started, we might find that a relationship broke down; they had to “shoulder” extra responsibilities; they were forced to retire; or the children left home and they suddenly had no focus to their life. The emotional “charge” created by those situations – or other changes in life - is the disruption in the energy field that manifests in pain.
When I support a client through the specific events leading up to the manifestation of the pain, tapping out the emotional charges as we go, there is often a profound and rapid change in the level of experienced pain – in fact, I will use the level of pain as a measure of how the session is going. If there is no change, then I will interpret that as an indication that some further digging needs to be done: “What did that situation remind you of?”, for example. Any increase in the pain level might indicate a different aspect rising to the surface: “It’s not so much the spider itself, but the way the web felt on my face”. A decrease in the level of pain is an indicator that we are on the right track and the energetic charge is being released.
As the session progresses, the client will often express amazement at how much better they feel on every level: “It’s like a weight has been lifted”
At the end of the session, I note a distinct change in the colour and tone of the client’s face, a spring in their step as freed energy moves into harmony and coherence and/or a difference in the client’s posture reflecting the release of long held tension.
To find out more or talk about how an EFT session with me can help you, you can find my phone number here, together with email contact details – or you can book a session with me here.
Saturday, 6 March 2010
EFT for Cats
I have a confession: I am the crazy cat lady - and it’s not easy to do EFT for cats!
Direct tapping on any animal depends entirely on them and, particularly if they are sick or have an inappropriate behaviour, they can be less than happy to be tapped on. Being sick or having a behaviour you don’t like can be stressful both for people and for your pets.
The cats my family lives with are, luckily, very patient. The kitten in this video was glad to join in the tapping game, but you’ll note that the tapping was most effective when she was fully tuned into the behaviour.
Apologies in advance for the last segment of the video. I wanted to catch her at the right time, which of course was when the only equipment available was the webcam!
Enjoy!
Surrogate tapping for animals can be tricky – sometimes our own feelings about the problem get in the way. EFT for animals is a specialist area of EFT and both owner and pet can benefit greatly from the help of a qualified practitioner.
And if you feel you could benefit from some expert EFT help, you can contact me here to arrange an appointment in person, by phone or by skype internet video call.
Direct tapping on any animal depends entirely on them and, particularly if they are sick or have an inappropriate behaviour, they can be less than happy to be tapped on. Being sick or having a behaviour you don’t like can be stressful both for people and for your pets.
The cats my family lives with are, luckily, very patient. The kitten in this video was glad to join in the tapping game, but you’ll note that the tapping was most effective when she was fully tuned into the behaviour.
Apologies in advance for the last segment of the video. I wanted to catch her at the right time, which of course was when the only equipment available was the webcam!
Enjoy!
Surrogate tapping for animals can be tricky – sometimes our own feelings about the problem get in the way. EFT for animals is a specialist area of EFT and both owner and pet can benefit greatly from the help of a qualified practitioner.
And if you feel you could benefit from some expert EFT help, you can contact me here to arrange an appointment in person, by phone or by skype internet video call.
Sunday, 21 February 2010
Clutter
We all have it. Whether it’s a drawer, a room, a garage or an attic, we all have varying amounts of stuff we don’t need, don’t use or don’t want stored in our homes somewhere. Every year there seems to be more of it, as if it is breeding in dark places and planning to take over the world. And of course, the more there is of it, the more daunting it is to do something about.
As a child growing up in my parents’ house, I can remember my mother demanding “take your clutter away!” on more than one occasion. I didn’t understand why she called it clutter – it was, at various times, my precious toys, magazines, makeup, school books, letters or other things that were of value to me, placed on the sideboard or in the sitting room “just for now” until I took it up to my room or dealt with it or – gasp! – threw it away (of which more later).
It was, of course, a matter of perception. From my point of view, these things were useful or transient. From my mother’s point of view, it was just stuff gathering dust and making the place look untidy.
- Even though my mother sees things differently to me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
- Even though my mother treats my things – and by extension, me - with contempt, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
- Even though my stuff is precious to me and she doesn’t understand, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Do you note that part of the setup statement: “my stuff is precious to me”? We tend to use the same word – “stuff” – to mean both our possessions and our history. This is no accident – as we move through life we collect stuff. Stuff that reminds us of our history. Sometimes it’s a present from someone we care about, or something fashionable in the 70s but now … not so much, or a replacement for something that still works, but is no longer really necessary – anyone who has owned a computer for more than 10 years has old monitors stored somewhere, for example, replaced by a flat screen that takes up far less room. Those old monitors may, after all, come in useful some day. Or a jumper “borrowed” from an old boyfriend and never returned, or a hideous gift from an aged relative we don’t want to offend.
Clutter is the physical manifestation of our history. Our history is precious to us and without it we wouldn’t be who we are. No wonder the number 1 obstacle to growing and getting past our issues is that we won’t know who we are if we change.
- Even though I won’t know who I am if I change, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
- Even though it’s scary to let go of [this issue], I deeply and completely love and accept myself and who I am
- Even though it’s true that I might be different if I change, it’s also true that I might be happier and I’m willing to be open to feeling happier and free
A Clutter Visualisation
Close your eyes. Imagine yourself surrounded by all your possessions, attached to each one of them by a piece of rope. Some of it is in suitcases, some of it is in huge trunks and bags and some of it is just little bits out by themselves. Really feel all that stuff tied to you. How do you feel? Now, try to move forward. Is it easy? Or is it really hard? Do you have to turn, gather the ropes in your hands and have to haul all that stuff with you?
This is where you are now, with your back to the future, your face to all that stuff, unable to move forward because of all the stuff holding you back and taking all your attention.
Now, imagine you find in your hands a large pair of sharp scissors or a sword if you like. Cut all those ties to the past, the scissors or sword easily slicing through the ropes attaching you to your past.
Now turn and move forward. Feel how much easier that is, the lightness, freedom and peace you can feel while taking your steps into your own future with nothing holding you back.
You are still you. The difference is that you are free of dragging all that stuff with you.
Take a breath, open your eyes and try to bring that feeling with you into the rest of your day.
Endnote
This is how EFT works – it facilitates the release of attachments to the past and frees you to be more yourself and less your stuff.
Today, 21st February 2010 is the first day of the World Tapping Summit – 10 days of EFT online presentations by various EFT personalities from different countries. I urge you to sign up for this free event.
And if you need some expert EFT help, you can contact me here for an appointment in person, by phone or by skype internet video call.
Thursday, 11 February 2010
Why Do We Eat? Part II
Last time we looked at social eating and the ways in which our childhood feelings around food can affect our relationship with it today. This time, let’s take that a bit further.
Eating for Enjoyment
When we approach food, we do so with anticipation. Very few of us see food simply as fuel, consuming only fluid with the required calorific and nutritional content – like the tasteless liquid in The Matrix! We expect enjoyment from it. Whether in the form of a rare steak or a vegan grain and vegetable casserole, we go to a great deal of trouble to find and prepare food – or buy it! – that tastes good as well as satisfying our hunger.
The sensual nature of food touches something very primitive in our psychological makeup and this is well known by marketers. Think about it: the Cadbury’s Flake adverts are pure sex; McDonalds adverts speak to the nurturer in us with their focus on nature and purity; those chocolate Easter bunny ads with their emphasis on the liquid nature of pure chocolate already have us salivating by the time we actually see the bell being hung around the bunny’s neck … we expect to enjoy the taste and texture of our food.
Think, too, of the nature of a “special date”. With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it is no accident that most restaurants will be fully booked by 12th February. Food = love and therefore many of us use it as a substitute when we feel unloved: our consumption of ice cream and chocolate rise in direct inverse proportion to the success of our love life!
By contrast, the movie “Supersize Me” not only showed us what was in the fast food we eat, but also the effect of eating it: liver disease, reduced immune function, weight loss and, surprisingly, addiction.
Addiction to food is a growing problem. Those who do not suffer from food addictions and its accompanying cravings fail to understand how compelling they can be. Many of us require something sweet after our main meal and assume that desire for it is simply a habit – one that can be satisfied with a piece of fruit. Unfortunately, many of us are unable to stop thinking about the “something sweet after dinner”, not least because of advertising through the media constantly reminding us of it.
Substances that produce cravings are not just, as we might expect, alcohol, drugs and nicotine, but also include refined sugar, bread, cheese, trans- and hydrogenated fats – many of which can be found in prepared meals and fast foods.
How an EFT Practitioner can help
Cravings are often seen as one of the easiest ways of showing what EFT can do – many practitioners (myself included) will arrive at a demonstration with a box of chocolate, give them out to those present and then proceed to direct a tapping session on removing the desire to eat them! Although you might think there would be a lot of disappointment that the audience don’t get to eat the chocolate, there is generally a great deal of laughter and appreciation for the fact that EFT is so efficient at removing such a seemingly impossible desire.
EFT practitioners are trained to help find the original emotional disruptions that result in an association of food with love and help facilitate a healthier relationship with food – look for AAMET qualified (like me) or Gary Craig Certified practitioners and ask to speak to one or two current or past clients to get a feel for how effective your prospective practitioner is. You can also invite a practitioner to demonstrate with you and a few friends in the terms outlined above. Many practitioners offer a free 15 minute phone or in person initial consultation. Others, like myself, offer to return the fee if they are unable to help.
I am available for personal and phone sessions, so wherever you are in the world my expertise is available to you.
You may also find this link useful: Xanthe Clay demonstrates recipes in ten minutes from carrier bag to table
Useful Setup Phrases for Food Cravings
You can find the “How to Tap” video here on this blog
Even though I really want to eat this [insert whatever it is here], I deeply and completely love and accept myself and how I feel
Even though I must have something sweet after dinner, I deeply and completely love and accept myself … or at least I want to …
Even though it’s not safe for me to lose weight, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Eating for Enjoyment
When we approach food, we do so with anticipation. Very few of us see food simply as fuel, consuming only fluid with the required calorific and nutritional content – like the tasteless liquid in The Matrix! We expect enjoyment from it. Whether in the form of a rare steak or a vegan grain and vegetable casserole, we go to a great deal of trouble to find and prepare food – or buy it! – that tastes good as well as satisfying our hunger.
The sensual nature of food touches something very primitive in our psychological makeup and this is well known by marketers. Think about it: the Cadbury’s Flake adverts are pure sex; McDonalds adverts speak to the nurturer in us with their focus on nature and purity; those chocolate Easter bunny ads with their emphasis on the liquid nature of pure chocolate already have us salivating by the time we actually see the bell being hung around the bunny’s neck … we expect to enjoy the taste and texture of our food.
Think, too, of the nature of a “special date”. With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it is no accident that most restaurants will be fully booked by 12th February. Food = love and therefore many of us use it as a substitute when we feel unloved: our consumption of ice cream and chocolate rise in direct inverse proportion to the success of our love life!
By contrast, the movie “Supersize Me” not only showed us what was in the fast food we eat, but also the effect of eating it: liver disease, reduced immune function, weight loss and, surprisingly, addiction.
Addiction to food is a growing problem. Those who do not suffer from food addictions and its accompanying cravings fail to understand how compelling they can be. Many of us require something sweet after our main meal and assume that desire for it is simply a habit – one that can be satisfied with a piece of fruit. Unfortunately, many of us are unable to stop thinking about the “something sweet after dinner”, not least because of advertising through the media constantly reminding us of it.
Substances that produce cravings are not just, as we might expect, alcohol, drugs and nicotine, but also include refined sugar, bread, cheese, trans- and hydrogenated fats – many of which can be found in prepared meals and fast foods.
How an EFT Practitioner can help
Cravings are often seen as one of the easiest ways of showing what EFT can do – many practitioners (myself included) will arrive at a demonstration with a box of chocolate, give them out to those present and then proceed to direct a tapping session on removing the desire to eat them! Although you might think there would be a lot of disappointment that the audience don’t get to eat the chocolate, there is generally a great deal of laughter and appreciation for the fact that EFT is so efficient at removing such a seemingly impossible desire.
EFT practitioners are trained to help find the original emotional disruptions that result in an association of food with love and help facilitate a healthier relationship with food – look for AAMET qualified (like me) or Gary Craig Certified practitioners and ask to speak to one or two current or past clients to get a feel for how effective your prospective practitioner is. You can also invite a practitioner to demonstrate with you and a few friends in the terms outlined above. Many practitioners offer a free 15 minute phone or in person initial consultation. Others, like myself, offer to return the fee if they are unable to help.
I am available for personal and phone sessions, so wherever you are in the world my expertise is available to you.
You may also find this link useful: Xanthe Clay demonstrates recipes in ten minutes from carrier bag to table
Useful Setup Phrases for Food Cravings
You can find the “How to Tap” video here on this blog
Even though I really want to eat this [insert whatever it is here], I deeply and completely love and accept myself and how I feel
Even though I must have something sweet after dinner, I deeply and completely love and accept myself … or at least I want to …
Even though it’s not safe for me to lose weight, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Why do we eat?
It seems such a simple question, doesn’t it? We eat to live and if we didn’t eat we would die. A simple answer to a simple question.
And yet, with the “epidemic” of obesity all over the Western world, simple answers don’t seem to apply any more, so let’s take a brief look at some of the reasons people eat.
Part I - Social Eating
From the first “let’s meet up for coffee” to the romantic dinner for two, relationships are built on social eating. The eating itself is compliment to the physical pleasure of being in a new or established relationship and associated in the mind with enjoyment and sensual stimulation. Small wonder that when things go wrong, we strive to reconnect with the sensations we remember from when things were going well.
Business, too, often takes place in an environment where food is available – the working breakfast, lunch, dinner; client entertaining and dinner with the boss either at home or in a restaurant. This situation is more stress than pleasure, with food as a counterpoint to the pressure of closing the deal.
Too many business meals and the weight piles on – have you noticed how much weight many successful politicians carry around with them? And how quickly that happens? Too much of a good thing tends to show up around the waist in very short order.
Family mealtimes are often the only time that the whole family is together – often less than once a week. That gathering of the family brings back memories of childhood when the parent was always available and mealtimes were, safe, loving, filled with laughter and togetherness. A special pleasure.
Alternatively, family mealtimes may have been a traumatic time – being forced to eat or times when a child could not help but be noticed by an abusive parent, for example – all associated subconsciously with food. Later on food becomes the only part of the abusive relationship that is under individual control … or the part that is hopelessly out of control.
More prosaically, food preparation is something that we have all, to an extent, become separated from. With most homes needing two incomes to maintain, there is very little time for cooking – what might once have been started at midday in order to present in the evening now has only 15-20 minutes associated with preparation and cooking time.
We turn to supermarket prepared and processed food to help assuage what can often be guilt about evening meals that at least look as if they might actually be food – food that someone at least has put some effort into. Unfortunately, most processed food has trans and hydrogenated fats as significant parts of the ingredients and far more salt and sugar than you would imagine simply by tasting it. Added to which, the body never really feels satisfied by that, so then it’s time to fill up with sweets and biscuits, both of which are also full of fat, salt and sugar.
Help from an EFT Practitioner
From the above, it becomes obvious that not everyone eats for the same reason or has the same associations with food. Which is why some diets work for some people and some don’t work for anyone!
When we use EFT for weight loss, what we are zeroing in on is our own individual events leading to our current relationships with food. Often, when we are using EFT by ourselves, we are unable to see our own woods because we get bogged down in our obscuring global trees.
EFT practitioners are trained to help – look for AAMET Qualified or Gary Craig Certified practitioners and ask to speak to one or two current or past clients to get a feel for how effective your prospective practitioner is. Many practitioners offer a free 15 minute phone or in person initial consultation. Others, like myself, offer to return the fee if they are unable to help.
Global Setup Phrases to Try
Even though mealtimes are always a battle, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though food is my only way of soothing my sadness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have to eat to be sociable – I can’t say no, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have this hunger and I don’t know where it came from, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Parts II, III, IV and V of this series will be published in following weeks.
And yet, with the “epidemic” of obesity all over the Western world, simple answers don’t seem to apply any more, so let’s take a brief look at some of the reasons people eat.
Part I - Social Eating
From the first “let’s meet up for coffee” to the romantic dinner for two, relationships are built on social eating. The eating itself is compliment to the physical pleasure of being in a new or established relationship and associated in the mind with enjoyment and sensual stimulation. Small wonder that when things go wrong, we strive to reconnect with the sensations we remember from when things were going well.
Business, too, often takes place in an environment where food is available – the working breakfast, lunch, dinner; client entertaining and dinner with the boss either at home or in a restaurant. This situation is more stress than pleasure, with food as a counterpoint to the pressure of closing the deal.
Too many business meals and the weight piles on – have you noticed how much weight many successful politicians carry around with them? And how quickly that happens? Too much of a good thing tends to show up around the waist in very short order.
Family mealtimes are often the only time that the whole family is together – often less than once a week. That gathering of the family brings back memories of childhood when the parent was always available and mealtimes were, safe, loving, filled with laughter and togetherness. A special pleasure.
Alternatively, family mealtimes may have been a traumatic time – being forced to eat or times when a child could not help but be noticed by an abusive parent, for example – all associated subconsciously with food. Later on food becomes the only part of the abusive relationship that is under individual control … or the part that is hopelessly out of control.
More prosaically, food preparation is something that we have all, to an extent, become separated from. With most homes needing two incomes to maintain, there is very little time for cooking – what might once have been started at midday in order to present in the evening now has only 15-20 minutes associated with preparation and cooking time.
We turn to supermarket prepared and processed food to help assuage what can often be guilt about evening meals that at least look as if they might actually be food – food that someone at least has put some effort into. Unfortunately, most processed food has trans and hydrogenated fats as significant parts of the ingredients and far more salt and sugar than you would imagine simply by tasting it. Added to which, the body never really feels satisfied by that, so then it’s time to fill up with sweets and biscuits, both of which are also full of fat, salt and sugar.
Help from an EFT Practitioner
From the above, it becomes obvious that not everyone eats for the same reason or has the same associations with food. Which is why some diets work for some people and some don’t work for anyone!
When we use EFT for weight loss, what we are zeroing in on is our own individual events leading to our current relationships with food. Often, when we are using EFT by ourselves, we are unable to see our own woods because we get bogged down in our obscuring global trees.
EFT practitioners are trained to help – look for AAMET Qualified or Gary Craig Certified practitioners and ask to speak to one or two current or past clients to get a feel for how effective your prospective practitioner is. Many practitioners offer a free 15 minute phone or in person initial consultation. Others, like myself, offer to return the fee if they are unable to help.
Global Setup Phrases to Try
Even though mealtimes are always a battle, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though food is my only way of soothing my sadness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have to eat to be sociable – I can’t say no, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have this hunger and I don’t know where it came from, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Parts II, III, IV and V of this series will be published in following weeks.
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